Unconventional thinkers

2023-01-12 18:51:46 2- Qism.

Qizlar Uchun!!!

1. Birinchi o'rinda Permission (Yani ruhsat) olish kerak qizlar uyidagilardan. Va hozirgina aytgan narsam Juda katta dolzarb mavzu O'zbekistonda. Shaxsiy fikrim, Ota Ona qizini haliyam yosh Bola hech narsani eplolmaydi, latta va bo'sh ,Chet el tugul Toshkendayam adashib muommo ichida qolib ketadi deb o'ylaydi va qo'rqadi. Parentdagi bu kuchli havotirni bataraf qilish Hamda Ularni ishonchini qozonish sizni qo'lizda qizlar! Xudo hohlasaa keyin ruhsat olish ham osonlashadi.

2.  Diydangizni qattiq qiling (Wednesdayga o'xshab o'zi boshladilar shekili shunga o'xshashni). Anyways, Endi Sizga mehribonchilik qiladigan, "qiz Bola ekaan" deb ko'nglizga qaraydigan odam yo'q bo'lsa ham "qandaydir manfaat" yuzasidan qilishadi. Shustriy bo'lishga, qattiq harakterli mode ga o'tishga urining. Yutqazmaysiz!

3. Yetib kelgandan keyin Ish masalasi.. Shaxsan man waitress bo'lishini maslahat bermayman. (2 ta restaurantda ishlash mobaynida ko'rdim endi man ko'rmagan yaxshilari ham bordir:). Xar xil odam keladi Restaurantga Muslim, Christian, Kofir.. harassment holatlari ko'p kuzatiladi Waitress larga. Erkaklar yopiq kiyingan bo'lsangiz ham yomon ko'z bilan qaraydi. (Something that I really hate!). Uni o'rniga kosmetika magazinlariga, food store larga, Salon krasatalarga ishga kirganiz yaxshi. Customerlar ayollar Bo'ladi ko'pincha (chayilgan erkaklar ham )

4. Uy Va Accommodation masalasi. Agar universityiz accomodation bersa va sizi qurbiz yetsa to'lagani Shu havfdan holiroq qizlar uchun. Guardlar Bo'ladi, campus da qizinkalar bilan laqillashib yotasiz. Agar imkoni bo'lmasa va Sizga uy kerak bo'lsa iloji boricha landlord (Yani uy egasi) ayol kishi bo'lsin. Bilib bo'lmaydi. Mag'pirat xolani uyiga ketyotganiz yo'q.

5. Qolgan Davlatlarda bilmadim lekin UK da shunaqa guruhlar bor. O'zbeklar ochgan va hamma problemalariini yozadi, yordam so'raydi va yordam beradi . Shunaqa guruhlarga yozyotganda gaplarizga etibor Bering. Social distance saqlang. Bitta bechara qiz yozganda "qiz bolaga uy kerak" degan. Sassiq O'zbeklar Erkaklar, bosar tusarini bilme qoganlar gapirmagan gapi qolmagan haligi qizga. "Uy Bor ....(blah blah)"

6. Ishonib ketavermang hammaga ham. Boyfriend ni O'zbekistonda topmaganmisiz bu yerda ham topmay qo'yavering. Dini qiziqshlari hayot tarzi Sizga , to'g'rirogi bizga islom diniga togri kelmasligi mumkin. Cho'chqa yeb o'tirmesizu boyfriendiz bilan

7. The same with Boys!!!!

Qanaqa yaxshi yomon comment bo'lsa aytavering, kutaman

@nauko_soxyun
@life_nauko Ochish/sharhlash

2023-01-12 18:51:21 Chet elga chiqmoqchi bo'lganlarga experience ga binoan 1-2 ta maslahat bermoqchiman. (Qanday qilib ketishizni farqi yo'q, exchange student/international student etc.)

Bollardan boshlaymiz.

1.O'zizga pul yig'ishni boshlang.  O'zi yaxshi bilaman O'zbekistonda ko'pchilik teenager bollar ishlaydi xunari bo'ladi, chorvasi Bo'ladi yoki Leva deyiladi Shu levasi Bo'ladi. Ajratib to'plab boring qayerdadur Nima uchundur kerak bo'ladi aniq. O'g'il bolasaaan o'zing top deb uyizdagilar qisadi aniq bu ham.

2. Ketyotgan joyizdan tanishlar topib qo'ying. Sizni kutib olgani, yordam bergani. Baribir Sizga kerak esankirab qolasiz bo'lmasam. Alhamdulillah o'zimda O'zbeklar Juda kop support qilishgan birinchi yetib kelganimda (hozirgacha yonimda turishadi rahmat hammalariga:)

3. Yetib kelganizdan keyin ish bilan o'qish o'rtasida balance ushang. Pul Bor ekan deb yopishvomang. Asosiy maqsad pul orqasidan yugurish bo'lib qolmasin. Yaxshi o'qib olsangiz, keyin sizni axtarib keladi insha'Allah.

4. Hamma narsaga tayyor turing. Sizga u yerdagilar tomonidan beriladigan muomalaga, harakter va savollarga xushyor Turing. Misol uchun : Do you have a girlfriend.? Deyishsa (agar yo'q bolsa sizda) No I don't have any girlfriends deb to'xtab qolmang. Or boyfriend.?? Degan savol srazi orqasidan yetib keladi bo'lmasa. No I am straight deyishga majbur bo'lasiz va whyyy??? Deb Yana boshizi og'ritishadi.

5. Juda ko'p etibor berib yubormang atrofizdagilarga. (Kimni aytyotganimni tushundiz ) hayoliz buziladi, Imoniz susayadi. O'ziz qalbiz bo'yicha imonizga mahkam Turing. Sizni chalg'itadigan narsalar Juda ko'p.

6. Ovqatlarga ham xushyor bo'ling. Endi isssiq tandir nonlar yoq (rossa sogindim ayam piyozlar solib qilardilar ). Halol narsa olib yeng McDonalds, Kfc endi atmen...

7. Va nihoyat siz uchun yomon bo'lsa ham, Kam taminlangan bo'lsa ham, anchagina orqada oqsayotgan bo'lsa ham svet yo'q bolsa ham O'zbekistonni esizdan chiqarmang. Shu yerda tug'ilgansiz Baribir bolaligiz Shu Vatanda o'tgan tan olgingiz kelmasa ham. Ota onangiz qarindosh urug'laringiz yozda cho'miladigan ariqlaringiz, 11 yil qatnagan maktabingiz, har xil raqamli damas transportingiz hamma hammasi Shu joyda. Siz butunlay ajrab ketolmaysiz. Keting o'qing, boy bo'ling Orzu qilganingizdek lekin qayting!

Qizlar uchun ham yozaymi? (Chet elga o'qish uchun ketgan qizlarni experience lariga binoan)

Kutaman javoblarni

@nauko_soxyun
@life_nauko Ochish/sharhlash

2023-01-11 15:52:32 Silentium!

Молчи, скрывайся и таи
И чувства и мечты свои —
Пускай в душевной глубине
Встают и заходят оне
Безмолвно, как звезды в ночи, —
Любуйся ими — и молчи.

Как сердцу высказать себя?
Другому как понять тебя?
Поймет ли он, чем ты живешь?
Мысль изреченная есть ложь —
Взрывая, возмутишь ключи,
Питайся ими — и молчи…

Лишь жить в себе самом умей —
Есть целый мир в душе твоей
Таинственно-волшебных дум —
Их оглушит наружный шум,
Дневные разгонят лучи —
Внимай их пенью — и молчи!..

1830 г. / Тютчев

@levshacloser Ochish/sharhlash

2023-01-10 18:52:41 #unconventional perspective

Once I asked an old man if he was happy, and he said to me: That's your generation's concern. Focusing on being happy is very different than being happy. And I think there is too much focus on what optimizes for happiness and too much life gets missed along the way.

The pursuit of happiness or like,
you know, the things people look for on Instagram is a passive position that keep you far away from everything and it's quite different to kind of go into life and try to suck the marrow out of yourself. Ochish/sharhlash

2023-01-10 10:07:55 Why some people can get the things they want easily and some do not? Do some people use some sort of tricks? Probably YES. They tend to manipulate others, even their rivals.

“Manipulative Nice Gestures” – how to notice them.

1.       Curse of Gifts.

Gifts are very common tools for manipulation, because the receiver feels a sense of loyalty to gift-giver. You may get close with people and touch their feelings just by giving some kind of present, and it does not need to be expensive one. However, reciprocity is not always used for good: some people use the gifts they gave for weaponizing their argumentators. Therefore we should be aware of whom we are receiving presents.

2.       The “Gas Light" Effect.

There was a play in 1938 called “Gas Light”, where husband keeps moving and changing places of various things when his wife is not at home. When the wife returns he insists nothing happened. Then, he begins slowly lowering the brightness of their lamps over months. When she brings it up, he continually asks her if she is seeing things and feeling OK. She eventually asks herself the same question.

It is the perfect example of Gaslighting – form of control where the victim begins to question the reality.

3.       “Breadcumbs” – Secret.

Some people love to use this technique because it is really easy to do. You just have to give enough signals to keep a person engaged without falling to their trap. Good example for this can be in social media: someone like all your posts, write positive comments, send you message, flirt with you in person. They seem to have a real interest in you, but when you offer them serious things like getting in relationship they become a zen philosopher on the virtues of independence. Ochish/sharhlash

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